According to your logic, if dicks cause wear and tear to a womans vagina, then it doesnt matter if she slept with 100 men or slept with one man 100 times, she will still have wear and tear. If sex shouldnt be used to judge someone then nothing else about that persons past should be of any relevance because after all, theyre in the past. I mean how hard can it be? I can see it now. I have actually come I think that sex is not the big factor of life, as a matter of fact I know sex is not the big factor of life. She's not who she's going to be, young women can be very insecure. Run. Lmao @ Whale Poop. If the actions belie the words, go with the actions. Not truly. I think most people say they dont judge but subconsciously do it by playing into these stereotypes or generalizations. There is more than that going on, and even the woman who was a virgin entering marriage can find herself taking that route if she is left unfulfilled, vulnerable, and an opportunity arises. Usually some sort of collection of all of the good qualities between all of their partners with none of the bad. Hell to some if you arent a virgin you are a whore. Hi Puppycat. The past does matter, because granted imagine sleeping with the man or woman, exchanging fluids. I am not against a woman having sex, I just think that it should be Yes, her past is hurtful and hard for us both. Her husband probly slept with 100 plus too. That would make you the asshole. A Woman or Man that sleeps with 100 people is emotionally DEAD! Not all of those events are going to be good in retrospect, but not all will be bad either. If she doesnt treat sex with respect then shes not going to consider it to be a big deal when she hooks up with someone else and leaves you wondering why you just wasted two years of your life with her. She says she knew what she was doing but to me it seems like she was being used, and that hurts. And I really dont care if you feel sorry for me or not. Im going to judge and hold people to the same standards Ive applied to myself. The problem here is that she does not come off like a ho AT ALLshes ambitious, intelligent, fashionable, etc etc. upbringing etc. The summary in red pill logic is a girl who has slept around a lot will have a lot of emotional issues and will end up cheating on you. Its more likely that my comments are going to garner negativity but I think its good to have a healthy view on such things. I had been with 100 myself. Sorry, Id much rather reward the woman who showed discipline, restraint, integrity, and respect for herself. So there is a responsibility on both ends. You can say no, no, no as much as you like and deny up and down till youre blue, but that still doesnt get the idea about a woman, out of a mans mind. thought out and weighed heavily with her morals and standards. Whether saying that a woman should have a low number of partners is out of sync with reality or not is irrelevant. Women are yet to be seen as equals. Personally, the number of guys dated doesnt equal number bedded. There are a lot more incidents which i wont get into for the sake of keeping this short. Most often it takes more than two relationships to find your life partner. Yeahman, if I were you I'd just take this whole things easy and use the time to work on myself. If two people are to form a relationship together for life, then honesty and openess is the best policy. Generally speaking, women can have sex with whoever they choose, the same cannot be said for men. Or, if a man is already with a woman, and he truly loves this woman. Your email address will not be published. You think we want you all used up. Much wiser to look at how a person has actually lived a life. Our passed has shaped our futures, so when a person refuses to tell you about their past, it's time to move on, because they have just shaped both of your futures, by refusing to open up. HOLD ON TO THE SPIRIT OF JESUS CHRIST. Great article. How many people have you slept with, Neighbor? Rest are the best women who should be given salute and Respect in the society and Life and they had earned the title to be called Wife and not a Slut (as Whore does sex for MONEY not Satisfaction or ENJOYMENT). It would best be done in the At this point a # seems like the least of my worries. If you are 30 and you had sex with 30 people, its hard to accept, Remember every saint was once a sinner down and every sinner can become a saint and stand tall. Yes, men are allowed to sleep with married women but women cant do the same with men. Im not saying that the way I thought was right but being raped for 3 years by the same man and molested by someone else that loved you has its effects on your mind and heart. We have been together for almost a year now. To you over 30 might be danger, to the next more than 7 might be too much. It seriously takes two to tango and this double standard business needs to stop. Be happy you have a girl. Yet she always tells me I expect the women I date to be perfect. downward but thats not a bad thing. has slept with. If you dont believe me look at the types of non-black females black celebs go for. In fact, white middle-class college-educated women in their twenties are widely recognized by researchers to have more sex partners than any other group of women; the 1995 National Survey of Family Growth reports that women in these three categories (of race, income and education) have the highest proportions of four or more partners over their lifetimes (39).https://karmak.org/archive/2002/10/portrait.html. Dont marry & dont give them kids. What does dancing and being physically fit have to do with the progress of humanity ??? while there certainly can be concerns about patterns of behavior, don't let those feed your insecurities. Lots of heartache there. At the end of the day, its all about what works to pass on genes. At the end of the day, I dont want to ever sleep with another man besides my boyfriend. Yall remember the movie House Party.when Bernie Mac remembered ole boys wife at the dinner table.smh They use to call you jawbones.lmaaaaaaaaaaaaaao nahhhh.Ill pass on all that. Why men are just saying fuck this and just fucking women and not giving a shit anymore ? Virility still rules. I believe this because I have been with someone that had many many partners. I believe yours is as well. Its not about allowing women to act similar to men, but simply to not judge women who may have had a promiscuous past. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); Enter your email below to join the VIP list. According to studies the chance of divorce strongly correlates Continue Reading Lawrence C. FinTech Enthusiast, Expert Investor, Finance at Masterworks Updated Thu I love this article! Like the article states you dont know why she chose to sleep with an individual or several. But I notice that its mostly inexperienced and insecure men who seem to be the most concerned about it. Therefore I believe a woman should be more selective in who she chooses. Also, I do not believe in the double standard! It benefits to see the bigger picture and all angles of a situation. Numbers mean nothing. Thinking about it more actually I should just avoid these jokes as it could be an avenue for the toxicity to leak out. I really really really don't want it to leak out in the slightest and thus far have done a good job to not responding for the most part to the passing remarks we've had about her past. I completely understand where you are coming from Kabdog but I have to respectfully disagree. Anyone who tells you different is selling something or a rabid feminist. You never pay Benz prices for a 1984 Datson, and Women have 10 lb babies & tighten right back up with the right maintenance (from experience). You know, there are a lot of people who always try to talk HIM out of existence maybe because they're really HOPING that HE doesn't exist. Some may argue that it speaks to her character. After all who wants to get busted for being less-than-perfect when we see HIM face to face? Personally, I am a bit old fashionedI just think that having so many partners that you are ashamed to admit the number is disgusting. A womans body is different. And many guys love me. Nice try though. As a GF or a FB, then men dont care what her count is. I reinforced that sex was a major responsibility, must be done with responsibility, and that I definitely preferred that she would wait until she was marriedbut that if something changedprotection was a must! 70% of divorces are initiated by women because of that reason, so Im curious to know exactly what you attribute the divorce rate to? To say she is damaged goods is a misnomer because you assume that her worth is completely controlled by her sexuality and how she uses it. Embrace that, and keep your focus on why you love her today, not what she was before you ever even knew her. Doctor lady walks up and says hey it has been forever how are you. If nothing else you Again, you say the past shouldnt matter. I am just as human as the next person and want to be treated as such. To judge them is just wrong and unfair. My personally opinion, 10 partners in a lifetime for men and women should be enough. He is allowed to his opinions and values as much as u are allowed to your body Women, she says, tend to have an emotional connection with their lover and are more likely to have an affair because of loneliness. Its only beta males, and soft men who have been brainwashed by feminism, or who attempt to co-opt these arguments in order to get into womens pants, who are ok dating sluts. I still disagree with your overall position on the matter. I practice EFT (emotional freedom technique) to get rid of emotional baggages which i guess he couldn understand. I Have a lot to say but I will say this only Thank you for your writing this article. And women can go a long way in updating the image of women in society. See, I can understand a man deciding not to be with that woman because their views and values dont line up. The raw numbers are there for anyone to see, and as anyone can see, there is a strong and direct correlation between number of partners for the woman and likelihood of marriage failure. I dont need booty call lovers hanging around, nor do I need or want others with a sexual desire lingering to get fired up later for whatever reason. She has turned away from that since, but would you still feel you should hold this over her head? I until recently had felt like i had to end it with her, but as you said i am taking it one day at a time because i love her and she is a good person that had a shitty hand dealt to her. Im always honest with him about everything but this is the one thing Im taking to the grave. Also remember that promiscuity at the end of the day has nothing to do with whether youll get an STD because all it takes is having sex with ONE person, who could be your significant other, that has an STD to transmit it to you. Ive been through it, luckily with no children involved, and Ive known others whove gone through. Sorry, no thanks. I understand a lot of what you have said and certain points are valid. Yet that does not change the fact higher numbers is not a guarantee that the woman you see before you today isnt at a place in life where she can be best suited for you. Men are different shapes and sizes therefore I beg to differ. I believe the average male has a high sex drive, created to be the leader/pursuer.. I agree with you. Also there may have been something lacking that led her back into her promiscuous ways, and a lot of women are not always forthcoming with there men about what is lacking and can be improved upon. She is 20 years old and lost her virginity at 18 to the first relationship. You don't have to carry that baggage. I confronted her about it and she responded the number was 5. And, we've all sinned a lot. You have married couples who though they love each other, they do not fully know, understand, and embraced the needs of the other. But it will be in the back of your mind. Judgment rules every single day in every aspect of life. It honestly is a question of a womans character. Me personally I know everyone does things they are not proud of but if i meet someone that has the potential to be the one why not at least get to know them and consider giving them a chance no one on this earth is flawless and perfect but its up to us to have a clear mind and not let the things mess up something that could be special. To be completely honest, I would not have been bothered if all 15 men before me were past relationships. many people feel and learn otherwise. kidsbut things were crazy for me four years ago. We would also need to You havent listed any statistics relevant to the discussion. Nobody is talking about women who are prudish or disinterested in sex. The whole premise of this article is misguided. What an a**! You make a great case for why women should not be promiscuous, but what the article is trying to convey is that their past should not be held over their head forever. There are many more core issues at play then simply the woman having had a promiscuous past. but not an automatic deal-breaker. If woman has had >20 partners, odds of remaining in marriage for 5+ years are measly 20%. Evaluate that person for who they are now, not who they were previously. The skank on the other hand discloses with everyone how many people she's been with. People have every right to want what they want in a mate,..within reason. I completely agree with you that a womans sexual health (i.e. Smh Of course Im gonna take the car with the less mileage on it. Whats cool is a man being willing to marry a woman he genuinely loves and connects with regardless of how she once was in the past. made and consequences stem from them. I on the other hand have done all those what ifs so they are no longer appealing to me anymore. Obviously the more people you sleep with the higher your possibility of having an std are. For instance, you are judging that other woman for judging other women. I get so excited all the time with her, cause I know she was a slut and Im proud of being a slut too. That being said I will speak for both sides on ways I Much like you are forcing the woman in your life to do, would you rather start out a relationship based on a lie? Of course you agree. What did that really change? its not my pussy they love right my personality and attitude. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. If she got pounded by 25 guys by age 25, whats to say shes not going to get pounded by another 2 guys a year even in a relationship for the next 10 years? 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